Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Undeserved Pedestal

People say "you never love again like the first time".  In my opinion most of those people measure the strength of their love for someone, based on how much it hurt when it was over.  Without even analyzing the quality of the relationship in question, almost everyone I know counts their first love as the first time they actually suffered for someone.

I'm thinking that the amount of suffering you go thru during a break up, comes from your ability and experience to deal with the suffering in the first place.  Once you have had your heart broken once you already know (hopefully) how to pull yourself together a little better.  You suffer a little less on subsequent breakups not because the love for that person was any weaker than your first love, but because you are stronger and deal with it more gracefully.  It makes the comparison between first loves and any future loves sort of unfair and unrealistic.

Sometimes I wonder if "first loves" should really be remembered as "first heartbreaks".  In the end, that's mostly what people remember them for.  First loves tend to be people that broke up with you, because people that you break up with tend to be forgotten quickly.  

So... "you never love like the first time" to me is a load of bullshit.  You love when you are ready to love, no matter if someone is number two, or three, or tenth (which might very well be the strongest love you've ever felt for anyone).  If you can't love again after having fallen down, get some professional help because you are missing out.

I think people put "first loves" on a pedestal they don't deserve... In the end, they didn't make it to your present for a reason.  

Sunday, September 18, 2011

A Spot In My Bracelet

My latest Pandora charm... a clock.  You may wonder why I got a clock, out of all those shiny, colorful, super cute charms...  Well, to me it symbolizes time.  

How many times a month do you say any one of these:  "They are never on time" ...  "It was just bad timing"... "I have no time to waste" ... "Time is money"...  "Wow, time flies"...  "It will get better with time"... "I need my day to have 30 hours!!"

It seems to matter in everything we do, whether it's remembering what happened yesterday, dealing with something happening today, or worrying about something that may or may not happen tomorrow.

No matter how much money we have, how healthy we are, how we look like, how happy we are, or how smart we are.  Time is the one thing that's the same for ALL of us.

Yep, I think the clock charm deserves a spot in my bracelet.


Life is a crazy bitch that has mood swings a lot more than once a month. It throws at you things that you are supposed to deal with "gracefully and maturely", meaning "without looking like a complete idiot that really has no idea about what's happening and how you got there in the first place".

When it all goes wrong, you start to realize that you are surrounded by special people. Those people don't tell you it's gonna be ok necessarily, but somehow they make you feel like you can handle it even if it gets worst. 

The "specials" stick by you giving you everything they have (be it psychological support, material goods, or financial backup), during times when you have nothing to give back... from any of those categories.

Then one day things start to fall into place, and while looking back at the messy times you realize that there is no way you could have stayed sane without the "specials". 

They are crazy, loud but sometimes too quiet, some are shy, some are too outgoing, some are funny, some are like made of crystal, while others don't mind getting dirty. They are sometimes more insane than I could ever be. Some don't drink, some drink so much they end up puking... gracefully. Some are looking for love, some are looking for inner peace, some look for money, some for anything that helps their own life get out of the bad times.

However, in all their organized mess, they still somehow helped you go through all of yours and come out clean. So to my "specials", I say thanks. For the late night talks, for the girls night outs, for the lunches and breakfasts, the many baby showers you had to attend, for the trips, for my awesome gifts in many occasions, for being amazing to my kids, for always picking up the phone, for having good taste in clothes and shoes so I could borrow, for liking my brownies, for making me lol all the time, and for telling me no when no needs to be told.


Friday, September 9, 2011

Bloodlust at the END !!!!

Fight Mechanics:

  • Configuration:  2 tanks, 3 healers, 5 dps.
  • This is a two boss encounter (Sofia and Joni), and the fight ends when their energy bar reaches 0.
  • The energy bars are NOT shared, and Joni's bar is smaller than Sofia's
  • Bloodlust should be saved for the END of the fight, because at this point you will need all the help you can get.

You must dps Joni FIRST.   Joni's energy bar is smaller than Sofia's.  Also, once Joni is down the following will happen:

1.  Sofia will no longer cast Immitate… which makes your fight a lot easier to deal with.
2.  Since all your dps will be concentrated on Sofia, she won't go into a Boredom Enrage.

Both Bosses have the ability Annoying Puke
If anyone from your raid gets hit with this either from Sofia or Joni, they must STOP CASTING.  Just go away from the raid until the debuff runs off, and then join the raid as before.

Rare Quietness:
During Rare Quietness, Sofia  and Joni will start to play with each other.  When this happens, everyone stop dpsing.  Since this can be a long fight, you need this time to regen mana and recuperate, so that you can continue on.  After Rare Quietness ends, both bosses will cast a random ability, so you must be prepared.

Sofia's Abilities:

At random intervals during the fight, Sofia will start to imitate all of Joni's abilities.  To counter this, have at least 4 dps on Sofia during Immitate, and have heavy heals on your tank.  Pop all cds at this point.  As soon as at least 4 dps are on Sofia for at least 30 seconds, Immitate should stop and the boss encounter can continue as before.

Occasionally, Sofia will fixate on a member of your raid.
The member that gets fixated on must immediately run to Sofia, or else everyone in the raid starts to stack a debuff that inflicts shadow damage.  This requires heavy heals, and even though you can heal through it, it's unnecessary damage.

Boredom Enrage:
If too many dps are concentrated on Joni, Sofia will go into Boredom Enrage.  She will put a debuff on your tank, and a tank can't take two Boredom Enrages in a  row, so after this ability happens tanks MUST SWAP.  It's unknown how many dps are required in order for this not to trigger, you must improvise at the time of the fight.

Joni's Abilities

This is usually cast when the fight starts.  Joni will start to do an AOE damage that will eventually wipe your raid.  However, Ferocity will go away if you just quickly feed him something from your bags.  Just assign a dps to deal with Ferocity, and a back up in case this person happens to be dealing with Sofia's Fixatitis at the moment.

Dreamer's Scream:
When Joni's energy bar hits around 30%, he will go into a state called Dreamer's Scream.  He will target a random member of your raid, and this person will get hit for around 40k nature damage.  If this person doesn't run QUICKLY to him, he will continue to target random raid members, and the damage inflicted goes up by 40K each time.  For this reason, is imperative that the FIRST person targeted, runs to Joni as soon as possible. 

The fight is a VERY complicated fight, because there are no predetermined phases.  Abilities are cast at RANDOM, they can interchange without a specific time limit, and sometimes new unknown abilities may happen.  If not dealt with properly, they WILL wipe your raid.  Again, good luck with this fight. 

Note:  This fight contains NO LOOT !!!!

Monday, August 29, 2011


Step 1:  A baby shower invitation arrives in the mail.

Step 2:  Is this invitation to a baby shower of a woman that my husband knows?

Step 3:  If "husband" doesn't know "woman", skip asking.  RSVP for 1 person and go alone.

Step 4:  If he knows her, ask yourself, "how much does he know her??"

Step 5:  If he has met her once or twice, RSVP for 1 person.

Step 6:  If he has met her many times still RSVP for 1 person.

Step 7:  If he has met her and her husband, and LIKES her husband, ask him if he wants to come.

Step 8:  If he has talked about them before on a conversation that he started, it's almost safe to RSVP for 2, but ask anyways.

Step 9:  If he usually invites them to places, RSVP for 2.

Step 10:  All other situations, it's pretty safe to RSVP for 1.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Go To Your Room

My 2 yr old talks like an adult, clear, concise, and to the point... Lately however, she has decided to start crying and whining for no reason.  Well, there is a reason, and it's called "an 8 month old baby brother".  I can understand that she wants attention, which we try to give her as much as possible.

Sometimes though, she cries REALLY for no reason, so my thing lately has been to tell her: "Look honey, when you feel like crying and you can't explain to me why, you go to your room and you cry as much as you want, let it all out, then you come out relaxed and talk to me. If you talk to us while crying we can't understand you".  That seems to work, because she cries and suddenly stops as if nothing happened.

The other day, her great-grandma was saying good bye and my daughter didn't feel like giving her a kiss, so grandma says "Baby, if you don't give me a kiss, I'm going to cry !!!!"  My daughter's immediate response:

"Grandma, if you are gonna cry go to your room!!!!"  >.<